When most of us hear the term ‘ghosted’ we think of online dating gone bad. But ghosting is creeping into the professional world too.

Without a doubt, recruitment is where you can find yourself professionally ghosted the most. It’s not at all uncommon for candidates to accept an offer on the phone then never respond to a single email or phone call.

However, companies can be just as bad – especially when it comes to hiring consultants and contractors. One minute they’re agreeing fees and timescales and then – poof! – you never hear from them again.

So how do you deal with ghosts?

1. Don’t take it personally

Getting ghosted will feel weird and will likely a hurt a little too. But don’t take it personally. For whatever reason, ghosting seems to be becoming the norm. My own opinion is that if that person is too weak to tell you why they don’t want to work with you, you’re better off out of there. Cut your losses!

2. Think long term and stay professional

It might be tempting to start sending the odd snarky email or message when you haven’t heard back for the 78th time, having cleared your schedule for that person or company. But remember you’re (probably) in your career for the long haul so it’s important to keep calm and stay professional.

3. Don’t pick up a bad habit

Just because it seems like everyone else is doing it, don’t start doing it yourself! Remember how much you’ve hated the experience and make a mental note to be clear with others. It will save so much time and energy in the long run.